The Friendly Fuck – The Slump’s Best Buddy

Today in Julie’s adventures in dating, we will be talking about what I like to call ‘The Friendly Fuck.’ (Not to be confused with ‘Friends with Benefits’ or the ‘Fuck Buddy ‘) What’s that you ask?  Well, I am glad you asked.

Ever been in a sex slump?  Of course you have, everyone has.  Well, when you are single sometimes the slump can be very stressful.  You become agitated and on edge, and you just need a good fuck to set you straight.  We have all been there.  The problem with that is that if you are single (Sorry married folk, I know it happens to you too.) there may not be anyone readily available for you to attack in their sleep, and normally roommates don’t really get too excited to be joined in bed at 3 am when you stumble in from the bar after striking out yet again.  Well in this particularly yucky situation I have a solution.

Disclaimer:  Those of you will more ‘morality’ than me may want to turn away from your screen now.  Actually… you should probably just forget about this blog all together, because I am destined to piss you off.

My solution is to sleep with your friends.  Not your best friends, or well you can, but I have found that it is best with friends that you don’t really hang out with on a regular basis.  People that you trust, and have fun with, but that won’t get awkward about it afterward.

The trick is to be honest about what is going on.  If there is to be no attachment then that should be up front.  If everyone is cool, and who wouldn’t be, then have your fun.  Work off all those frustrations and get that much needed relief, and maybe return the favor when they are in a slump.  I find that when both parties are slumpin the sex can get quite interesting.  You can even think of it as practice.  After all you need to keep those skills sharp for when you find someone you might actually want to be romantic with.

I know that some of you may be saying that this type of sex could never really be satisfying, but I stick to the old rule of ‘Don’t knock it, till you try it.’  The fact is, no matter what emotion or feeling you attach to the act of sex, it is fun!  Or it should be.  Sex is my favorite exercise.  I burn more calories in the sack than anything, except maybe laughing. (Yes, I am a lazy ass, shut your face.)  Sex should be about exploring the body of your partner, and finding new ways to make each other feel that amazing feeling that ends in a juicy mess on the back seat of your car. (Yes, I love car sex.)

I have to admit that I am not a subcriber to all the nonsense that is the stigma attached to sex, but that is another blog post all together, what I am saying is that there shouldn’t be this unwritten rule that forbids you from sleeping with your friends.  They are, after all, your friends.  They like you and they enjoy seeing you have fun.  If the opportunity is there, and both parties are okay with the semantics, then go fuck, have fun, come all over each other if that is your thing.

The problem most have with this situation, is that they don’t make things clear.  Either to themselves, or to the other party.  Things get confused, and suddenly you have a rift.  That is never fun, but with good ole fashioned honesty that can be avoided.  To help you all out I will share some wisdom.  Some suggestions to keep in mind, if you will.

First of which, don’t choose someone you have a crush on, or someone that has a crush on you.  That will never be just a purely sexual experience.  Choose someone that you can trust.  Someone that you can feel comfortable with, not only sexually, but someone you don’t mind being honest with.  That is not to say, that you should choose someone you are not attracted to, after all, what kind of sex would that be.

For this situation to work you need to be okay with the fact that you don’t have to call after. (But wait, that’s part of the perks.)  Some space afterwards is often a good thing, not a bad one.  No one wants to be used for just sex, no matter how open you are, and this space allows you to go back to the normal chain of events.

I would also suggest that you not make it a habit to only use one person.  Again for the simple reason that no one wants to be used for sex.  These are your friends, after all, so treat them with the respect they deserve.  Too many Friendly Fucks with the same person too close together could pose a problem, not only between you and your sex buddy, but also with the other friends you share.  The last thing you need is to cause waves.  Some things are just better left under the covers.  That is not to say that you should lie.  There is never a good reason to lie, but not everyone needs to know everything or everyone you do.  You never know when someone might get a jealous streak and cause problems where there isn’t any to begin with.

Lastly, I advise you to have fun!  You have been waiting for this fuck, why not enjoy yourself.

Now that I have offered my 2 cents on the subject, let’s hear you side.

Have you ever embarked upon the quest for a Friendly Fuck?

Did you find in it all you needed?

Did it go smoothly or were there problems?

What is the worst slump that you have been in?

How did you soothe your frustration?

Is a Friendly Fuck worse morally than masturbating so much you rub yourself raw?

Give me your thoughts on this and anything else you would like to see me address.  I am making a list of topics to talk about during these blog sessions, and I would be more than happy to add in your suggestions.

Till Next Time…

Keep it Friendly

Polyamorous, Bi-sexual, and Totally Single

I have toyed with the idea of doing a ‘being single’ type blog… still not sure about it actually, but I keep coming back to the idea.  The only thing really holding me back is that I would hate to offend anyone involved.  I guess the best way to do that would be not to mention names of course, but still is that enough censorship? By the way I really hate that word.  Censorship… why can’t people just learn not to be offended?  Sure it’s hard, but do my words really affect you to that degree?  I think not.

Another problem with this plan is what is okay to talk about?  Most of you know I am a bit of a sex fiend, so would it really be too far fetched to think that I would want to talk about sex?  Again… I think not.

What about when things end… How should that be done… You know what… Fuck it… I’m gunna go for it.  I have been missing my blogs for a while now, and I actually have something to rant and rave about besides makeup and books so I am going to use this as an excuse to dive back in to the blog world.  I will stick to the no names rule, and I will do my best not to offend, but here we go.  Feel free to let me know when this shit gets boring as fuck.

I guess to start out I better let you in on what the fuck I am looking for.  I figure that’s probably the best way start to anything.  Basically, I am looking for a good time.  If that happens while out grabbing some drinks, riding around for hours laughing our asses off, or fucking till we are both spent and sore, well I am up for that and just about anything else.  I want to meet new people.  Have new conversations.  Learn new ways to laugh and have fun.  I do not, however, want to commit to anyone.  I, as most of you know, was married for 8 years and I am not looking to get into another relationship like that.  Honestly maybe I really am not the marrying kind.  Obviously the first one didn’t go so well, even if we are both still very close.

Polyamorous is a word that, more and more, I relate to myself.  Wikapedia says that Polyamory is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.  Those that know me best would agree that the previous definition fits me well.  I have been experimenting with it for a few months now and I think that a relationship, or more likely, more than one relationship, like that, would be the best fit for me. Now I have to figure out how that works in a world that is obsessed with monogamy.

I have said it before and I will say it again.  I just don’t think that monogamy works.  People as a species are built to want to expand our knowledge and experience new things.  We don’t even keep our cell phones for more than 2 years, and most of us would be helpless without them, but instead of keeping our old faithful, we go out and get a new one, with exciting new buttons to press and new bells and whistles to show off.  We don’t go without, and we don’t stick to the first one we get, so why should we do that with our lovers.  The same goes for cars, clothes, houses, hell basically everything.  I personally think that allowing yourself to be with more than one partner allows you to experience new things about yourself.  After all, no two people are the same, each person brings something new to the table and you get to be a part of things that you wouldn’t have normally been able to had you conformed to society’s rule of monogamy.

So that is where I stand.  I am not however oblivious to my constantly morphing state of mind, so this may not be a forever statement, but I know myself well enough at this juncture to know that I would not survive well in a fully committed relationship, and that is something that I can deal with.  Finding others that agree with me is the trouble.

Have no fear, there are plenty of people out there looking for just sex.  If you have ever been on an online dating site you will know that well, but finding the balance of someone that wants to both fuck and hang out outside the bedroom is sometimes hard.  Sometimes you find someone that you have a blast with both in and out of private time but then you have to always be wary of feelings.  They tend to creep up when you least expect it, and not everyone is equipped to handle having feelings for someone you cannot call solely your own.  That is the part that sucks.  I have found that personally I don’t really have a problem with that.  I am not a jealous person by nature, and it would not bother me to be in a relationship with more than one person that I cared about.  I tend to care about most people that I call friends, and the addition of sex is not problem. (I really do want my cake and to eat it too)  The reverse is also true.  I have also found that starting things with just great sex can lead to a great friendship and for me it is not a problem to bridge the gap.

During this time of self discovery I am saddened to find that sometimes even when completely honest, sometimes it just doesn’t work out.  Sometimes the other person just can’t bridge the gap without commitment, or at least not to the degree that I would like, and things must end.  This happened recently actually and I fully admit that I am a bit upset.  He was a great guy.  Crazy as a loon, and funny to boot, but we are on different paths.  I have some hope that it is not the complete end, but I also know that thinking that it could have been more permanent is just a pipe dream, and like any other polyamorous bi-sexual gal I have other sites to set my eyes upon, and I am going to dive right back in.

With the new year approaching rapidly, I hope it will bring with it a buffet of good times and new experiences.  I also hope that in writing to the huddled masses that I am able to both entertain and educate you on the wondering mind of a newly single vagina toting woman with a plan to live it up.

Now this is the time that I open the floor to you…

Have any questions or concerns?

Want to argue with me on my beliefs?

Wanna ask me out?

The floor is yours…

Till Next Time…

Play that Field

6 Months and Counting

Well Hello There…

Nice to finally see you all again. Well it’s been 6 months. PB (that is the ex, for those that don’t know) is out of the house and into his own place.  The bro and baby mama are out too, leaving just me and the dogs at the house.   I have been on a few dates and had some great times.  Casual has proved to be fun, even if boring at times.  I’ll admit now that I am doing a little online dating, but in this day and age, I just can’t think of a good reason not to, plus it gives me an excuse to have random conversations with strangers, whenever I feel like it.  I’ll also freely admit that sometimes it is weird as fuck.  I just don’t see how anyone would think that it would be sufficient to just message that you wanna fuck.  It just makes me want to ask if that ever works for them.  I mean I consider myself a pretty laid back person and I don’t get offended by too much, but still, why would you want your first impression to be a badly composed booty call… It just amazes me.  Then you have the guys who are just down right needy.  I consider myself a pretty needy person at times, but I hope I don’t sound like these guys.  My rule for the online dating is to never message first.  That kind of fits with my position on the whole thing actually.  If you want to approach me then that’s cool, but I would rather not be the one to make the first move. This sometimes leads to very frustrating and boring nights alone reading, but luckily I have really amazing friends and they don’t mind helping to keep me busy.

Work life has changed.  I am no longer at Sparkle City Tattoos, and tho I do miss it sometimes, I ended up with a pretty cool job selling auto parts.  Its boring as fuck at times, and I feel like a retard all the time because I know next to nothing about vehicle repair, but steady pay, and decent folk to work with is proving to help compensate.  Actually I am really fucking happy to still have the job.  I was hired to help deliver parts during the day, but that was a bad choice it seems.  A few weeks ago I got in an accident totaling not only the company truck but the other vehicle as well.  It was horrible, and I was sure that they would fire me, but by some twist of fate they let me stay, and I am grateful as fuck!  Now I work nights and weekends, instead of weekdays but hell I am happy to have it.  At least now I don’t have to get up at the butt crack of dawn.

The girl is doing great.  Second grade has proved to be no problem, even if she has discovered a hate of math.  She started reading Harry Potter the other night, and you have no idea how proud I am. I am thinking of getting some books for her for christmas, but she said she wanted makeup.  So far I have yet to buy a christmas gift at all, and part of me wants to keep it that way, I surely can’t afford it, but for her I’ll make an exception.

Well I guess that is all for now.  Off to pick up the Lezbot for some chill time.

Until next time…

Stay Sexy

Impromptu Bloggage… Words, Oh How I Have Missed Yee

It has been a really long time since I have been on here typing like this.  I miss it, yet lately I just don’t want to be at home at all, so there is never time.  So much has happened that, if there are any readers left, probably know nothing about, then again, those of you that are still readers probably already know all of this, but I am here to ramble for a bit so get comfortable.

Where to start.  Well I guess the best place to start is that I am single.  Or single-ish.  The hubbs and I have split.  Marriage is no longer in my vocabulary.  To be honest I felt it coming on for a while, but no one wants to really admit that until its done.  To be honest the last straw was totally my fault.  I went and became a cheater.  I admit it.  It was unexpected, but it happened and now its over.  Needless to say things have been a little off kilter.  For the most part we get along pretty well still, which is great.  We both want to salvage our friendship, which is strong, and we have always been good partners, so we continue to live together for the time being.  Financially that is the only solution that makes sense, but the practice is sometimes not so great.  As anyone can imagine we have our off days… hell even weeks, but its a transition and eventually things will be easier.  Or that is what I am hoping for.  I tend to stick to the just ignore it and it will go away tactic, which works, but isn’t so great for the hubbs, hereafter referred to as PB.

To be completely honest I have no idea what to do with the situation some days.  It is strange, fortunately tho I know a good bit about strange.  I am embracing the change.  Enjoying it as much as possible, and trying to keep myself from going sir crazy in a house I no longer feel comfortable just lounging in.  So I stay gone.  I meet new people.  I go to bars.  I try to keep true to myself and I mostly try to just get by.  Such is life, right.  It hasn’t been as depressing as I have managed to make it sound tho.  I have much more freedom to be me now, which is such a nice change of pace.  No longer do I worry about what someone may think.  I make my own decisions.  I take my own risks.  Mostly is it very exciting.  It has been great being able to go out and talk to people and play around.  I am enjoying myself a great deal.  I hope to continue to do so.

With that out of the way.  The girl starts 2nd grade, yeh you read right, on Wednesday.  I can’t believe it.  She has also started gymnastics, which she loves, and otherwise surprising me with everyday.  Sometimes I just can’t believe how great she is, and how I pale in comparison.  One day I hope to have less anxiety when it comes to being mommy, but something tells me that after 7 and a half years if it hasn’t happened yet, then it is pretty unlikely.  It is a good thing she is so amazing, I am afraid that a kid less stellar would be totally fucked up by my less than superior mommy skills.

Now to work life.  Have I mentioned lately how much I fucking love my damn job?  Well I do.  I still can’t believe I landed it, and now I just gatta keep it.  I am a little worried about the coming winter slow down, but maybe 2 jobs is just what I need to get out of the house.  Sorta hard to do tho with no car still.   Since I killed mine a few months back, I have been in total bum mode.  It fucking sucks.  If you have ever been there then you know.  I keep trying to save a little money back, but do you know how hard it is to save money when there is never any left over?  I hate money.  There is never enough.

In other news, I think I have finally made it around to every color in the rainbow, and far as hair color goes.  Currently rocking some super yellow and orange, maybe even adding some red in the mix today actually.  Now I can go back and do some new combos.  I have gotten a couple recommendations for the red pink again, so I might have to do that soon.  I am sure my dark roots will be making an obvious appearance soon, and I will have to do something different.

I wish I had some cool pics to share, but lately the only pics I have taken are of rad tattoos at the shop.  I miss my camera so much.  There was never any luck in finding it by the cops.  Surprise Surprise… I doubt I will ever be able to get another.  It is fucking depressing, but at least I get to still indulge my love of being behind the lens at the shop.  We have a pretty fucking sweet setup actually.  Its like having my own little studio, only I own nothing. :/  Oh well, can’t have everything.  I am enjoying it tho, even if picking up his sweet camera gives me a little stab of jealousy every time.

What else… It seems I have run out of shit to ramble about.  I hope you have enjoyed yourself here.  It has been nice on my end.  I have always enjoying just typing to everyone and no one.  It is very cathartic.  I should make time for it more.  I miss writing.  I still get crazy story ideas, but I never seem to have the time to flesh them out.  Maybe one day it will fall into place.  Kinda like today, it just so happened that I have the living room to myself for once and I am not boiling in my own skin sitting at the computer, so here I am.

I think I’ll go try and converse with the roomie now tho.  I have been distant, and I miss the ease of our conversations.  Let’s hope today is a good day.

Till then…

Be real.

Julie Gotz Madd Style!

Most of you know my passion for makeup.  That passion has become so much stronger over the past year, mostly because of all of the amazing women I have met through various makeup chats and forums.  These women have spurred on my love of transformation, and have introduced me to many products that I would have otherwise never have tried.   In fact, until about a year ago I knew nothing about pigments, had never used them, but was totally fascinated.   I jumped on the bandwagon with a company that brought both heartbreak and great friendships, and no matter the outcome, I am happy with the resulting love of pigments.

Now I look at my abundance of pressed shadows and am left wanting, when I never was before, but thankfully there are a lot of pigment companies out there for me to try, and trying them out, is so much fun!

My next few blogs will be reviews and tutorials.  I had hoped to be able to show off some fabulous pics and videos for you all, but unfortunately my time has been greatly compromised by my fabulous new job.  I can’t say that I am sorry, because frankly I am very much enjoying my new position.  It is very rewarding for me, just as much as makeup, and I had never thought that any job would fit me as well.

However, that being said, I have received some fabulous products, that I would like to tell you about.

Madd Style Cosmetics – http://www.etsy.com/shop/moloverox

You have heard me rave about her lip products, but she has widened her product line to include pigments, and from what a little birdy told me, she will be adding more face fixer type products to her line as well.   As you can imagine, when she asked if I would review her products, I hopped on the chance.

In the press packet I received I was surprised to find all full size products, in which I was very impressed.

She sent me 2 Lip Bombs, in her line of lip balms, in the flavors of Skittles and Frankencake, 1 of her impressive Uber Boss Lip Glosses in Chibi Moon, as well as Awesomesause, her foiling serum/glitter adhesive, and 6 Madd Piggiez, in Kick Ass, Star Gazer, Booginish, Electric Koolaid, Zombie Crush, and Cloud Nine.

I have been very happy with the results from all of the products that I received.  I have used each product multiple times, and none of them disappoint.  I have put each of these things to the test with various results, all of which I have been very happily surprised.

Over the course of the last couple of weeks I have used these products in many different looks, and during these sessions, one pigment in particular has really grabbed me.  Star Gazer.  OMFG!! This pigment can do anything!!  I love it!!  I mean don’t get me wrong, everything that she sent is great, the pigments are very smooth and blendable, and the color payoff it great for them all, but Star Gazer ::swoon::  gives me chills with its versatility.  The first time I used it I used it as a highlight over a NYX Milk base and it was great, a little blue iridescence but not overwhelming, meaning it could be easily used with most looks, but in the same look I used it on the bottom lash line after I had lined my eyes with my black gel liner and the little bit that covered the black liner totally made my mouth drop.

You get all that shimmery goodness that only the black base can really make the blue in the color pop like crazy, leaving you with a totally different look and color.  It is by far my favorite, which surprised me because I totally thought that Kick Ass would be the shoe in.  Though I do love that red, man!  It really is spectacular!  They ALL are!

All in all, and am in total love with everything, she sent, and I recently placed another order for even more!!  So there will be lots to see

The next several pics are looks that I used MSC in.  You can see the versatility of the colors, as well as combos you may not have thought of before.

 

Final notes on Madd Style Cosmetics:  They are a great affordable pigment company that takes pride in all aspects of the business.  She provides great customer service, reliable packaging and shipping, as well as beautifully crafted products.  I would recommend this company to anyone looking to expand their makeup collection.  Whether you go with her lips products or her pigments, or even (coming soon) the face products.  You will not be disappointed.

Sorry for the absence…

Well as you know I haven’t posed in quite a while.  I just really haven’t had the time to sit down and write.  I miss it a lot actually but I have been really busy lately.  2011 is turning into quite the year, and I couldn’t be happier.

I want you to know that I am still thinking about you all, and I do hope to get some more reviews and stuff together for you guys.  I actually have 2 or three that are already started, but I need to get pics and stuff together for them, and unfortunately that takes some time, and time is a precious commodity of late… Please feel free to let me know anything you would like to see tho, because eventually I hope to get to a place where I can write a blog/review at least once a week.  Until then tho, let me pimp out my new place of employment.

my boss, Don Osborne

Tali, another Artist at the shop… totally great guy, and fantastic artist to boot!

Brittany, Don’s super awesome apprentice.

Tyler, Badass Artist, also residing at Sparkle City.

The stations…

Come see us, get some bad ass body art!

Sparkle City Tattoos

1095 Asheville Hwy

Spartanburg SC 29651

864-327-8371

http://www.facebook.com/sparklecitytattoo

Till Next Time…

Later Taters

Julie

A Sad Retraction, and a Hope for Better Things to Come

I have been thinking for the past two days about what I would say when I sat down to finally write this, and I guess my main sentiment is that I am sorry.  I am sorry that I feel the need to write this at all.  I am sorry that things turned out this way, and I am sorry that writing this will probably cost me a few more deletions on my Facebook.

Most of all I am sorry that the heavy recommendations that I gave out of good faith to a company that I felt great loyalty to, were treated unfairly.  For that reason, more than any other is the reason that I am writing you all today.

In April of this year a friend of mine on Facebook turned me on to my very first experience with pigments, and a company named Glittersniffer Cosmetics.  The company had so many awesome colors to choose from, and the fan page became a frequent haunt.  I met many amazing ladies on that page, and while I was there I was welcomed with open arms.  My personal financial situation of the past year has not lent to many shopping sprees, and even though I lusted after the pigments from the first moment I laid eyes on them, I knew I wouldn’t be able to purchase like some of the other ladies.

During my time there, I placed and paid for only 3 orders, two small, and the other on a larger scale.  The first of my orders went well.  It came in a timely fashion, and aside from a few replacement colors, my order was all there.  My second order, took over 3 months to get to me.  I had a shipping tracking number that never updated, and after 2 months I contacted the owner by e-mail, and was told that it must have been lost in the mail, and she sent out a replacement package that did in fact make it to my door.  During this occasion, and frankly in all other dealings that I ever had with the owner, she was very kind and was adamant about making things right, so I looked over the incident, and a few months later when I had more money to spend I placed my third order, which came in a simi-timely manner.  My last paid order was in June, (I say paid, because I did win several contests in which I received pigments) and in July I came here and praised everything about the company.

At that time I was being as honest with all of you as I am being now.  I regret to say that, since then, my opinion of the company has changed.

Since my introduction I have gotten to know many amazing girls from the fan page, and because of their inspiration I branched out and did many things that I thought that I could never do.  I took the support and kind words and turned them into a dream,  that I carry still, and for that I am ever grateful.  If it had not been for the girls on that fan page, I would have never thought that Cosmetology School would be a good place for me.  I would never have started making video tutorials, and I never would have had the pleasure of knowing that there are people out there in the world who think I do makeup well.  I appreciate and cherish all of those things, and I will never regret my time there.

But things have changed, and over the last few months, I have seen so many pleading posts and comments about how tracking numbers never update, people getting incorrect packages, inconsistencies in the product itself, and over all poor business practices.  All of these things I have seen on the on the fan page.

All of these things and more.

For a while, I dismissed it.  After all there were people on the fan page that would strike out at those who had problems, telling them to take it up on a more personal level, but as more time passed, I began to see that the people were trying to settle their problems by e-mail or other means, and their communications were ignored.  It took me quite a while to realize that the excuses and reasoning behind the unsatisfied customers were being used over and over again, without noticeable action to correct the problems.  I began to see a pattern that was unsettling, but instead of speaking out, I kept quiet, because I had no personal experience to pull from, and because I wanted to give the company the chance to make it right without adding more drama.

Yes, I said drama, and that is the way I thought about it for a long time.  People would come and complain and things would get catty and all of a sudden the real problem was covered up in so much other drama that it could no longer be seen, and still these unsatisfied costumers real problems went unsolved.

Two days ago, the drama situation ended for me.  I read a note by an amazing woman who not only got her point across, but also took out all of the drama, and left only the facts that she herself had found to be true.  It is due partly to that note that I am writing you all today.  I was so impressed by her level headedness, and so moved by the many, many, comments agreeing with her, and sharing their own stories, that I felt that I must speak out myself.

I don’t know how many people that I am responsible for turning on to Glittersniffer, nor do I know how many of those people were treated fairly or unfairly, but what I do know is that I heavily recommended them, in many different places, and in many different ways, and I realize now that I can no longer do that with a clean conscious.

If you have noticed I have removed quite a few links off to the side.  I did that because I do not want to be the avenue that people take to having a bad experience, with anything, and especially over a business transaction, that I have no control over, but I am also doing this because I want all of you who read the things that I write, and hear the things that I say, and be able to TRUST me.

I in no way recommended this company with the knowledge that people were being unfairly treated, and I am retracting those recommendations now.

I also want to say that I am NOT deleting ANYONE from my Facebook friends list.  I have NO personal problems with anyone, including the owner of the company.  I will not say that I agree with some of the things that she has chosen to do as a result of this recent upset, because I do not, but as a personal rule, I am not a deleter of friends.  If you choose to delete me, then so be it.  I hate that it would come to that, but if it does, then it was not meant to be.

I will say this though; I will not tolerate rudeness to me or on my page.  That is not who I am, and that is not something that I want associated with me.  I realize that there are many hard feelings on both sides, and I wish to remain as neutral as possible.  I sincerely hope that the outpouring of personal stories and experiences will help to change this company’s strategies as to how it deals with things, and I hope that this is not the beginning to the end of a company that I still believe has a lot of potential, but for the time being I am removing my recommendation.

I hope that you all will take the information that I have given you today and make up your own mind.  It is after all not my place to make them up for you, but please know that I am personally sorry to anyone that I have turned on to Glittersniffer and were not treated well.  I regret that happened and if I was personally able to make things right I would do so, however it is neither my place to do so, nor do I have the ability or the finances to do so.

Please know that I will always be honest with you to the best of my ability, and I will always try to make things right whenever it is brought to my attention that I have given false advice.  Never be afraid to tell me what you think.  I will always be here to listen, and try to work things out.

In closing I would like to leave you with a link to the note I referenced before.  I think it was well stated and the comments are filled with the personal experiences of many.  I will let you read for yourself the problems that are being faced, and with those details you can choose your own path.  In the effort to be fair I will also give you the e-mail address of the company, so that if you have any questions for them, you can direct them toward the right source.

The Facebook note from above, can be read here, along with the comments that I also spoke about. ->  http://www.facebook.com/notes/krissi-sandvik/falling-in-and-out-of-love-or-dude-its-only-make-up/10150135339562166?notif_t=note_reply

There is also a copy of it on her blog that can be read here, for those of you that are unable to read it on FB ->  http://krissisandvik.blogspot.com/2010/12/falling-in-and-out-of-love.html

The email address that you can reach Glittersniffer Cosmetics is here ->  glittersniffercosmetics@gmail.com

I hope that you will take this as it is, an apology and retraction of my endorsement, rather than an attack on any particular person, and I give you free reign to say whatever you like here or on Facebook, with regard to this announcement.  I do ask that you try to keep those comments polite, and refrain from the ‘drama’ that keeps very real issues from showing through.

Till Next Time,

Do no harm…

Julie

Finding Your Place

 

Dog behavior is so complex that many will never understand it.  Though when you do, you see how really simple it all is.  Like their wild relatives, all dogs, no matter size or breed, follow pack rule.  Packs come in many shapes and sizes.  Many dogs only have humans in their pack, others have other canine members, but no matter the kind of pack, all dogs are looking for their place in line.  In a dog pack the alpha runs the show, they are the most dominate of the group, and they offer both protection and discipline.  The other members of the pack fall in line.  Pack hierarchy is a tenuous balance, but in a well formed pack, each member knows their place, and what they are responsible for.  How easy would life be if it were simply that easy for us?

The problem with many dog owners is just that they don’t understand how to fit into a pack.  They lack the understanding of its benefits.  I like to think I am not one of those people.

I have 2 dogs, and another that might as well be mine, but her tag has the number of my brother and his girlfriend.  They are in no way related by blood.  The eldest, Bindi, is a Corgi-Australian Cattle Dog mix, both of her parents were pure bred, but in no way the stars of their breed.  I bought her from the woman who owned her parents for twenty five dollars.  She was six weeks old and that was a little over 4 years ago.  Every vaccination she ever had up until she was 3, I gave her myself.  I assisted in her spay, and I treated her broken elbow, demodex mange, and skin allergies.  She is the Alpha of her canine pack.  The only position higher than her are the humans in her life.   Even then, she will answer only to those she recognizes in her pack.  She is the smartest dog I have ever owned.  She has taught me more about dog behavior than any other dog that I have ever come across.  Saying that may not seem like a big deal, but I worked in the animal industry for six plus years, doing everything from helping people find the right dog for their family at the humane society, to assisting veterinarians in surgery, performing technician duties, as well as attending to dogs at a cage free kennel.  The statement is a large one.  One that grows in truth everyday that I share with Bindi as a companion.

The largest dog in my pack, is Buck, weighing in around forty five pounds.  He is a mix that has many different directions in his family tree.  He is the son of a family pet, the only one that survived past 3 months in a pack of 13, most of which died in the first week.  From the very beginning he has been a survivor.  Sometimes he seems downright indestructible.  He is by far the most accident prone in the group.  At six months someone ran over him while he was tied out in my yard.  He was skinned from the back of his head to his hips.  He was a perfect gentleman as I nursed him back to health.  He still carries scars from that incident.  After that he has survived quite a few altercations with dirt bikes, four wheelers, and unfortunately a car or two.  As you can tell he is not the smartest cracker in the box.  He never was and never will be, but what he lacks in brains, he makes up in loyalty.  He worships my daughter, and no matter if he understands what you want from him, his biggest wish is to please.  He was the hardest dog I have ever trained, but at the same time he was also the easiest to housetrain.  He is a total beta male.  Only recently has he moved up in the pack, first only because there was a new member, but now after Bindi’s accident, he has moved up to protector.  Not Alpha, he still takes orders from her, but he has moved up, and seems to be taking well to the change.  Their relationship is beautiful to watch.  Simple and sweet.

Bella is the newcomer.   We were told she is a Pitbull-Jack Russell mix, and at five months old is the untrained little bitch of the group.  She is thankfully smarter than Buck, but she is still trying at times.  She brings up the rear in the pack line up.

I wish my life was so simple.  I wish I knew where I stood.  Isn’t that what everyone hopes for?  To find their place.  At least with my dogs I always know where I stand.

Where do you stand?

Till Next Time

Luv your pups.

Julie

So much for being more reliable…

Yeh yeh… Its been quite a while… but you have to understand that October for me is always packed full of stuff to do.  Halloween, take a lot of time and effort to plan, but when it comes down to it… It is soo worth it.

I think those that were lucky enough to celebrate with us, will tell you the same.

This year’s party was a phenomenal hit!  We had lots of newbies and of course the regulars wouldn’t miss it.  It was great fun, and I am totally happy with the outcome.

That of course means that next year’s bash will be even more ridiculously amazing!

Of course Halloween also means lots and lots of makeup!!  I ended up doing 6 zombies, 2 frozen eskimos, a fairy, little red riding hood, the grim reaper, the joker, and… damn… I keep thinking I am missing someone…  Either way, you can see I was busy.  Unfortunately because I was so busy, getting pics of the finished product was left to chance.

Here are the only ones I managed to get pics of…

Besides all the Halloween hoopla, there was the first student teacher meeting with the little demon’s teacher.  It seems the little genius is one of the 3 top readers in her class, and is well loved by both her classmates and her teachers.  It makes me so proud to see how effortless reading has come to her.  The rest of her school stuff seems to be falling in the same pattern as well, and that brings a smile to my face, just typing it.  She really is the smartest kid I have ever met. I love that girl.

In addition to that I was lucky enough to get to go to a couple concerts, and some kick ass parties.  Last month was definitely a fun filled one!

As far as tutorials go, you can probably guess that I haven’t recorded anything new.  I know, I know… Slap my hand.  I do plan on getting back into it, but I just havent been very motivated.  I do have quite a few requests, that I would love to be reminded of, so I don’t forget anything, and I do plan on getting to all of them, in time.

I also realize that I have not yet posted my eye blog.  The reason behind the delay, is simple because I havent finished it yet.  I want to pack a lot of stuff in it, and the research and such is time consumeing, and for the last little bit I really havent had the time to spare, or if I did, I decided to read instead.  I do plan on getting that out by the end of the month though, so there is something to look forward to.

Yep… I have been a total book worm lately.  I think I have gone through about 10 books in the last few weeks, and I don’t feel a need to stop.  Reading is my most revered hobby.  I love books!  I read the new Dan Brown book, The Lost Symbol, it was pretty darn great by the way.  I also started  a couple of new series.  I finished the first of Sherrilin Kenyon’s Dark Hunter series.  I jumped feet first into Keri Arthur’s Riley Jenson series, as well as The Sign of the Zodiac books by Vicki Petterson.  I also finally got a hold of the new Sookie book, and checked out a few short stories of hers too.  As you can see, I try to keep the brain engaged.

If you ever read something good let me know, I am always looking for good book recommendations.  In fact I got a great one from Vanessa a few months ago, and when I finally got a hold of my first Lynn Flewelling book I was sucked in!  I got Bone Doll’s Twin first, because the library only had a few choices, but it looks like I am going to have to go buy the rest of that series, because I am hooked.  I also need to get a hold of her other series too, because from what I hear it is pretty awesome too.

In other news, for those interested.  We have added to our dog pack.  Bindi and Buck have welcomed Bella into the fold, and have been getting along swimmingly.  Luckily the Bro’s pseudo ownership keeps me from having to buy her food or feed her, but otherwise, she is fitting in nicely.  I had a great day yesterday playing with the three of them, even got a few good pics of them playing.

Life is good.

So, what have I missed while I have been away from the computer?

Anything good to report?

Read any good books?

Any awesome new looks I should check out?

Have ya missed me?

 

Till Next Time…

Keep the fun comin!

Julie

Manic Makeup Monday – The Slacker Edition

So yeh… here I am again, with no video, and no pictorial…

I’ll wait while you all give me a verbal lashing…

Done?  Good.  Now we can move on.

Okay, so here is the deal.  I really thought that doing the posts on Monday would allow me to do some awesome things over the weekend.  Well it turns out that weekends are filled with fun stuff like parties, and hang time with friends.  Who knew? Right?

Well so I have been in total planning mode today to do a vid tomorrow, and I was thinking that maybe I should change it up and just make it during the week instead so I can do the vids early in the week and post them before the weekend.

Since I love all you readers so much I am giving you the chance to vote on your favorite day, and to help me come up with a spiffy new name for it…

I totally dig some alliteration, but anything unique and strangeirific is fine by me.

Post your suggestions here or on my FB page, and when I film and edit tomorrow’s video, your name could be the new label!

I was thinking either Thursday or Friday would be best, but you all can help me decide.  Seeing as I have also been super slacking on the Fiction Fridays too, I welcome all of your ideas pertaining to that as well.

Also, since this seems to be a sort of question the reader type blog, what other things would you like to see in my blog?  All suggestions are welcome.

I used to do a lot of day to day kind of blogs, but I have kind of grown out of telling all my life stories, tho I could be persuaded to do so, if you have a question or request of some kind.

Oh, and another thing!  I got my second shipment of NEW GS colors in today and they are FABULOSITY in a pot!

See…

I can’t wait to use them!!  In fact tomorrow’s video will be all new colors!!

The cuz actually picked them out already…

VIP, Smuggler, and Head Case

…but you know me… I could add a lot of colors between now and then… haha

Still not sure what design I am going for, but I have a request from Lizzy, to do a stripey look, and I have been wanting to try out a new eyeliner look, so that may make an appearance as well…

So now that I am done giving you guys the heads up… It is your turn to make a move…

• Tell me which day you think would be best for the new ‘Manic Makeup Monday’

Thursday
or
Friday

• Then you need to tell me what I should call it!!

• Then tell me what you think I should do about the inconsistent Fiction Fridays.

• THEN… Tell me what you would like to read here…along with all my glitter addict stories of course..

Don’t forget I am also ALWAYS taking suggestions on looks that you would like me to do.  I love the picture suggestions that I have been getting, and I can’t wait to get even more!

Till Next Time…

Speak up foo!

Julie

GIANT Hugz to Krissi for correcting my mishap in the blog title… hahaha oops… just more proof that I am a big tard…